Monday, March 25, 2019

There is no such thing as a good smack...

"It never did me any harm"

"How else will they ever learn?"

"Kids these days need a good smack."

That is what they say, don't they. Parents who smack their kids. Or worse, people who think that parents should smack their kids. So many cliches.  All of these statements are actually quite disturbing. There is no such thing as a 'good smack.'

In light of the news that smacking children is set to banned in Wales I've been thinking about the importance of this. How can we teach our children that violence is not the answer if we show them that violence is how we deal with situations?

Thankfully I am not of the generation who were beat by their parents. I didn't have a board duster thrown at me by a teacher, or have to hold out my hand for lashes from the cane. My parents never took their belt to me. Smacking to me seems like a relic from the past, a Dickensian way to control and frighten our children into doing what we want them to do.

Kids need to learn. They don't exit the womb understanding that that it is wrong to put their hand in a fire, drink bleach, or hit other children. As parents it is our job to teach them that these things are wrong, but hitting children is not the way forward. In my experience as a Dad, most of the time confiscating works. Toys, books, and of course the most effective... the WiFi....

I didn't get smacked, and I turned out alright. Oh look, that's one of those cliches again...

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